You want to make the big decisions, the day finally arrives, and then you worry over each of them. What gives?
According to the Heath brothers (and many others), decisions wear us out. They take a lot of energy and can fatigue us as much as heavy exercise. Supposedly two grandmasters of chess can burn 6000 calories in three hours making the decisions needed in a game.
You struggle with the decisions when:
- There isn’t a clear “right” answer.
- There are many possible right answers.
- The outcomes of you decision make big differences.
The issue usually at stake is fear. Most of us are afraid to fail.
In youth ministry, this problem is compounded by the looming threat of approval. If a leader’s (Sr. Pastor) understanding and agreement is the measure of success for another leader (Youth Pastor), then huge pressure rests on each decision.
So much of what you do working with students is beyond your control, though. Only God can draw people to himself, change hearts, bring salvation into the lives of teens. Of course, you can do things that look like that. You can build an attractional ministry using behavior modification, but the real outcomes are beyond you.
Decisions based on freedom benefits you. When you release yourself from measuring up to other’s expectations, the result is obvious. Suddenly you can change your focus from seeking approval to doing the right thing at the right time.
For example, you know what to do when a young adult needs advice, but that decision may be clouded when weighed against parents or a pastor’s expectations. Maybe the clear answer for a student is to stop worrying so much about their grades. Or maybe it’s to try doing something that’s not socially acceptable.
When you have to consider the many possible outcomes of that scenario, it’s paralyzing. But if God has the results covered, then all you have to do is follow through with that leading. God will insure the next steps.